6 Ways to Fall in Love With Your Life Again
Just like our phones, if it doesn’t get charged it won’t work, it won’t function well, and it’ll definitely heat up.
Before the pandemic, I had a totally different plan:
- Gain work experiences
- Go to grad school (under a program that I had a minimal understanding of)
- Try to get a full-time job at some company that had half of what I wanted to do with my life.
Of course, I didn’t want to admit it to myself that I was pursuing a dream that I could possibly hate. However, I was so wrapped up in getting a master degree that I allowed every irrational thought to consumed me.
Now we’re 7–8 months into the pandemic and my life has changed significantly. I quit a job that clearly wasn’t my style from the start. I focused on my passion (writing) and I’m building a new career for myself in this industry. As for grad school, it’s still in the picture but it’s not a priority anymore.
Other than the professional stuff, I learned to love my life again. I read for 15 minutes every day for 2 months. I take 30-minute to 1 hour walks every day. I’m socializing with my friends and family more because they bring joy into my life. Most importantly, I took some time just to focus on myself.
So, if you’re struggling to love your life again, don’t worry you’re not alone on this path. Sometimes, we need this unexpected reset so we can better understand ourselves and our true destiny in life. That’s why I was inspired to write this story so I can help you redefine your goals so you can (hopefully) love your life again.
And as Yoko Ono once said:
I have only one life, so I want to make sure it’s a good one.
1. Start With a Goodnight Sleep
I’m a firm believer that a goodnight sleep is essential because your body, mind, and eyes need to recharge. Just like our phones, if it doesn’t get charged it won’t work, it won’t function well, and it’ll definitely heat up.
So, I encourage you to calm your mind, drink some water, and just relax on your bed. You deserve to relax after years of working long days and nights.
As for the benefits of having a goodnight sleep, the U.S Department of Health and Human Services claim that a proper amount of sleep will reduce stress and it can improve your mood. You’ll also have less health issues and you’re able to think more clearly throughout the day.
2. Go Back to the Basics
You don’t have to move to a new city, change your name, and get a new job to love your life again. I mean, you can but that doesn’t always have to be the answer. So, I recommend going back to the basics.
- What do you enjoy doing in your life?
- What makes you smile?
- What haven’t you done yet that you want to do right now?
Most importantly, take it one day at a time because nobody said you have to figure everything out right now. Again, we’re going back to the basics and taking things slowly one step at a time.
3. Surround Yourself With Positive People
I recommend starting with your family, good friends, and people who bring positivity in your life. Since the pandemic started, it’s been easier for people to catch up with their loved ones. It’s as simple as a phone call or a Skype chat.
Also, positive and caring people tend to give the best advice. So, if you have anything you want to discuss with them or you need some guidance in your “renewed” life, discuss it with them.
Most importantly, you don’t have to tackle this new journey alone. It’s good to have a support system behind you so you don’t feel like you’re doing this all by yourself.
4. New Goals and Aspirations
By having a renewed life, you’re opening many doors for new goals and aspirations. This is the time for you to take some risk and to try something new.
Here are some questions to consider:
- What’s your new found career that you’re interested in pursuing?
- Are your new goals aligned to your new life?
- What’s a skill that you want to learn before 2020 ends?
- Do you want to implement more morning walks before you go to work?
I want to emphasize that your new goals can be as simple as you want it to be. It doesn’t have to be an extravagant goal or a trip to Dubai. Seriously, it can be as simple as sleeping in for an extra 15 minutes or adding 5 more minutes into your workout routine.
5. Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone
When people start a new life, they usually add something new into their life. In some cases, they may refine something old and make it brand new again.
For example, I went back to learning Italian this year. I was on and off with it for a few months. Now, I’m making an effort to review some Italian every few days throughout the week. Also, I don’t want to put 3 semesters of Italian into waste…haha.
If you don’t want to review a language like me, here are some ideas that you can implement into your life:
- If you enjoy hiking, why not hike in a different trail versus the same trail that you usually go to?
- Instead of waking up at 6am every morning, why not change it to 6:30am?
6. Redefine Your Life
My final tip is to take some time to reflect on your life.
- What do you hope to do differently or at least improve in this new life?
- What do you want from this chapter that you didn’t do in the last chapter?
- Why is it meaningful for you to make these changes?
- What does a meaningful life mean to you?
Like I mentioned beforehand, take it one step at a time and remember that you don’t have to do this by yourself. There’s no right answer to redefining this new life.
Also, you can always make changes in your journey. Life is more interesting and exciting when it’s not so narrow.
- Begin with a goodnight sleep because you deserve to rest and clear your mind.
- Go back to the basics because sometimes the simplest changes can make the biggest difference in your life.
- I encourage you to surround yourself with positive people in your life.
- This is a great time to figure out your new goals and aspirations.
- Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something new that can possibly enhance your life.
- Redefine your life and figure out what you want to do differently that you didn’t do in the past.